I recently posted 10 Time Management Tips on my ClarinetMike Blog. The third tip is:
- Learn how to quickly (and courteously) get rid of unexpected visitors when they drop by your practice room or office to just “chat.”
A few years ago, I posted these tips in a ClarinetMike Blog post on various social media outlets and an astute person on LinkedIn asked how this could be done, i.e. “nicely get rid of people.” Below is my response to him.
Years ago, I heard a recording of a time management/motivation speaker and former minister named Coy Quisenberry. He explained how he quickly and courteously “moved along” overly-chatty visitors to his office when he was a minister at a church. The following is similar to what he said.
After a few minutes of letting the visitor speak, I would get up from my chair and walk out of my office at the same time continuing the conversation. The visitor would always follow me through the doorway into the hall outside. I would then walk the visitor down the hall toward the elevator (to put him/her on it!). I would gently say, “It’s great to see you and have a chance to catch up on things, but I really need to get back to my office. Please give me a call some time. Thanks!” And then I would head back to my office. Most of the time this worked and the visitor was gone.
If the guest was a woman, I sometimes would head toward the Men’s restroom. This also worked well. On a few occasions, when a guest just wouldn’t stop talking, I would tell them with more firmness, but nicely, that I had work to do and just couldn’t keep speaking to them. They would invariably realize they were being a pest and would apologize. And, importantly, leave without offense being taken.
ClarinetMike says, “Be like old pastor Coy Quisenberry.”